Daily prompt 1.7.2026

What’s a lesson you’ve learned recently that shifted your perspective?

Loving kindness and accepting everyone as they are without judgement. To set boundaries for oneself and to keep it.

It is easy to understand this darma from Buddhism and to think it is easy to live by. Not for many people tho. People are full of anticipation and although most never think they put up expectations towards others – it is easily happens.

I was invited to a wedding recently and it felt very nice to be invited. But the circumstances of the location and how to get there by myself made it impossible for me to attend no matter how I twisted and turned it around in my head and on paper.

When I delivered the news with the explanation and reasons, to my surprise I received hateful speech and judgement. In fact I got ghosted.

I could not help to wonder what prompted this behaviour? a 180 degree turn. First an invitation – gives a signal of being somewhat important, then total hatered – gives a signal of no importance whatsoever. Very odd behaviour.

For me the natural instinct is to offer my help to anyone at every situation. But we are not the same.

Loving kindness means you let everyone be what they are and accept them as they are. Even in situations when you envision a different outcome. It is not easy perhaps, but possible when you practice it mindfully.

What I have learned from this sad incident is that probably it is true what the darmas teach us about negativity’s power to cause division and damage. Damage in societies, damage in personal relationships, and so on.

It is always preferred to relate to things and people’s circumstances with loving kindness and without judgement. When judgement arises – division happens. Division is not a positive energy therefore it is not to be exercised.

Set your boundaries and keep them. Do not let negativity shake you even it makes you feel sad. Most of the times we start explaining our validity for existence. That is not necessary. People should relate to each other with loving kindness all together, then no explanation necessary.

If someone does not relate to you with loving kindness and lays judgement on you for what you are – stay silent and walk away. Negative energy does not build us as a collective. If someone throws untruthful claims at you placed in the past and does not allow you to follow the law of universe which is constantly changing but judges and jerks you back to the past – maybe that person is not a friend at all.

So the lesson I have learned is that it is best to hold our ground and keep only friends who are likeminded and live by loving kindness.